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Giving My Mom Dignity as Her Fight Against Cancer Continues

13 Feb

My mom was diagnosed with stage four ovarian cancer in late 2009. She’s beaten the odds for a long time, really. She has never been one to give in, and she continues to fight.

She was admitted to the hospital over the weekend after experiencing severe abdominal pain. Eventually we learned that some of the tumors that had formed in her abdomen had created an obstruction to the point that she can no longer properly digest food. She underwent a procedure last night that would help to alleviate the pain and symptoms she had been experiencing. Prior to that, she had a nasogastric tube in that rendered her unable to speak.

My mom was able to speak today, finally. It was such a relief to hear her voice. She told me about her string of visitors and how she missed her dogs. She asked me if it was cold or snowy outside here in New York. She told me not to worry about her because she was being taken care of and a lot of family and friends had come to visit.

She always says that — not to worry about her. She’s always thinking about someone other than herself.

I fly out Friday morning. I try to keep distracted until then. My sister has been a constant presence at her side, as has one of our brothers, and our oldest brother is coming to visit this weekend. I’m so thankful for that.

I hope we can take her home this weekend. I hope we can give her the dignity and support she deserves. I hope we can convey how much she means to us and how blessed we are to have a mother who fought for herself and for us.


Goals are good

31 May

I’ve fervently been on the job hunt lately, and one place in particular asked a very interesting question: What are your goals for the next year, three years and 10 years?


I really hadn’t thought about that in a long time. I’m typically a very organized person and I usually have my little road map for life (or so I think), but ever since I graduated from grad school, things have been less-than-planned. This can be good because I think it’s important to have spontaneous, unplanned moments in life, but I also know I need some direction right now. So it was a great question to think about and I’m really glad I got some responses down!

Here are my goals. They are numbered, but really they aren’t in any order. I just did it to keep track of the number of goals I have.

One year goals
1. Train for and finish my first full marathon
2. Start to repay and lower my debt
3. Continue to roll out my graphic design business
4. Grow artistically and creatively
5. Strengthen my personal relationships with the people I care about
6. Stay happy and healthy both physically and mentally

Three years
1. Qualify for the Boston Marathon
2. Get strong enough to teach fitness classes for fun
3. Be nearly debt-free
4. Visit other continents (and run in each of them!)
5. Establish myself as an innovator in web and media development

10 year goals
1. Write a book
2. Consider getting a doctoral degree
3. Be totally debt free
4. Consider having or adopting a kiddo
5. Have money saved up
6. Continue to be happy and satisfied with life!

Think about your goals. This is a great exercise. I remember someone once told me that people who wrote down their goals were 75% more likely to achieve them. That’s a pretty good stat if you ask me.